Don鈥檛 Ask, Don鈥檛 Tell in Our Schools
It is time for students to begin returning to school. What should be an exciting time for all is, for too many, a time of anxiety and fear; fear of how they will be treated because they are (or perceived as) lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender (LGBT). Will they be bullied, laughed at, the target of slurs, or excluded? Will they have to hide or deny who they are in order to be a valued member of their school community?
罢丑别听 concluded that, 鈥淪chools nationwide are hostile environments for a distressing number of LGBT students, the overwhelming majority of whom routinely hear anti-LGBT language and experience victimization and discrimination at school.鈥� The survey reported LGBT students frequently or often heard the following:
- 71.4% 鈥済ay鈥� used in a negative way (e.g., 鈥渢hat鈥檚 so gay鈥�).
- 90.8% reported that they felt distressed because of this language.
- 64.5% other homophobic remarks (e.g., 鈥渄yke鈥� or 鈥渇aggot鈥�).
- 56.4% negative remarks about gender expression (not acting 鈥渕asculine enough鈥� or 鈥渇eminine enough鈥�).
- 33.1% heard negative remarks specifically about transgender people, like 鈥渢ranny鈥� or 鈥渉e/she鈥�.
If asked, no one would disagree that schools should be a safe haven for ALL students. But for LGBT students the expectation for this haven may be at the cost of cloaking their authentic selves. In other words: Don鈥檛 ask鈥擠on鈥檛 tell. 聽
Some believe the best solution is to not bring attention to yourself or your circumstances as to not invite problems. Simply put this approach is wrong. It is dismissing the emotional wellbeing of LGBT students for the sake of individuals whom at best are uninformed or uncomfortable or at worst homo/transphobic.
How inclusive of LGBT students is your school?:
- Do the adults feel a responsibility in聽educating themselves to better understand LGBT individuals?
- Do teachers/administrators take the lead in meeting the needs of LGBT students or wait until there is a district policy or law enforcing it?
- Are 鈥渏okes鈥� allowed or overlooked as long as no LGBT individuals hear it?
- Do people immediately jump to the conclusion that every image with rainbow colors is promoting a 鈥済ay agenda"?
- Are there individuals that take every available opportunity to express their personal anti-LGBT views?
- Would staff confront and/or willingly report a fellow educator for harassing and/or discriminatory behavior toward LGBT individuals?
Most alarming:
- Over 50% reported hearing homophobic or negative remarks about gender expression from their teachers or other school staff.
- 61.6% who did reported an incident of harassment or assault said that school staff did nothing in response ().
As educators it is our duty to advocate for all students. That means responding to and calling out behaviors that are negative toward ANY individual or group.
Silence condones. 聽
It is essential that we confront these behaviors in classrooms, hallways, locker rooms, fields, courts, cafeterias, teacher lounges, offices, or meetings鈥攅verywhere and always. 聽聽聽聽聽
Although, the focus of this writing has been on students, the reality is this is about all LGBT persons, including educators themselves. It is naive to believe that LGBT students will feel welcomed, accepted, and valued in schools if LGBT teachers remain cloaked and hidden. That is a loud and clear message: "You tolerate me because you have to. You do not value me." 聽
This is about human rights. Our public schools are built on the premise of equal rights for all.聽As educators we must honor the sanctity of human rights above all else. Not to do so is malpractice. 聽
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